If you have been looking at my website and considering counselling, then let me say a little about counselling itself. Perhaps it is familiar to you or perhaps it is something you might enter into for the first time. The first thing I want to say to you is that I bring my own expertise, and I believe you do too - the expertise of your own life, feelings, thoughts and experiences, even if, at times, you are not clear what those mean to you. To that end, I won't be able to tell you what to do to resolve your problems, nor will I analyse or give you advice. I will work with you to figure it out.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” ― Paulo Coelho
People come into counselling for lots of reasons. It could be to explore an issue, to work on specific goals or to increase your awareness of yourself. Often the relationship means that we might explore more than the original problem to gain a deeper understanding.
Usually we would meet for 1 hour per week and within that I aim to create a secure and warm relationship, where initially you might take a leap of faith to begin, and grow to build trust in our work together. Within our work, my aim is always to offer a deep understanding and to genuinely accept who you are and how you feel. In the process of our work it can be challenging, insightful and ultimately empowering.
My experience tells me that this space and time for you can become an important place to explore, be open and to be really heard in your difficulties. It can take courage to explore how you feel and the thoughts you have and so it is important to me that you feel comfortable in our relationship.
Counselling is confidential, and I will explain the limitations of confidentiality to you when we meet - there are some exceptions to confidentiality including child protection or vulnerable adult policies that I adhere to. I will provide you with my working agreement which lays out how we will work together and important aspects we will take account of.